Emotional Intelligence

According to Goleman & Boyatzis (2017) Emotional intelligence, also known as the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. The four pillars of emotional intelligence include self awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.

We need these skills to relate to others, especially in a work setting. Being self aware is the ability to recognize your emotions, and understand what they’re telling you. Emotional intelligence also involves your ability to recognize what others maybe feeling which is called empathy. This allows you to relate to others and manage your relationships as you listen.

Listening to your emotions is confirmation to your soul. We all have emotions to guide us through life. When many of us go against our emotions most of us feel unsettled. Self awareness and self management are essential features to assist with social awareness of self and others. Individuals that have poor emotional intelligence have ineffective social skills that impede relationships and lack sincerity.

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Are you inspired to change or improve your emotional intelligence? Take responsibility for your actions and your emotions. This can be achieved by being aware of any emotions that you maybe experiencing. How do you manage your relationships, and do you have the ability to show empathy for others? This is also a key component of emotional intelligence.

Sounds simple but this can be challenging if you are not motivated or aware of your surroundings and how you interact with others. I sure you have examples of someone lacking emotional intelligence and how exhausting it can be. Having these skills are essential to your health and well being. It also gives meaning to your relationships and makes you a better listener.

Just keeping you informed.


Goleman, D., & Boyatzis, R. (2017). Emotional intelligence has 12 elements. Which do you need to work on. Harvard Business Review, 84(2), 1-5.

Emotional Intelligence Developing Strong “People Skills” Retrieved from https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_59.htm

Published by Dr. Marilyn Crosby, PhD, MBA, MSN RN

I am an registered nurse with a variety of nursing experience in many areas of healthcare, including critical care, research, program management, quality, and complementary care. I have a passion for "all things related to health & wellness" and want to share pertinent information. Stay Well!

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