Emotional Intelligence

According to Goleman & Boyatzis (2017) Emotional intelligence, also known as the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. The four pillars of emotional intelligence include self awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.

We need these skills to relate to others, especially in a work setting. Being self aware is the ability to recognize your emotions, and understand what they’re telling you. Emotional intelligence also involves your ability to recognize what others maybe feeling which is called empathy. This allows you to relate to others and manage your relationships as you listen.

Listening to your emotions is confirmation to your soul. We all have emotions to guide us through life. When many of us go against our emotions most of us feel unsettled. Self awareness and self management are essential features to assist with social awareness of self and others. Individuals that have poor emotional intelligence have ineffective social skills that impede relationships and lack sincerity.

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Are you inspired to change or improve your emotional intelligence? Take responsibility for your actions and your emotions. This can be achieved by being aware of any emotions that you maybe experiencing. How do you manage your relationships, and do you have the ability to show empathy for others? This is also a key component of emotional intelligence.

Sounds simple but this can be challenging if you are not motivated or aware of your surroundings and how you interact with others. I sure you have examples of someone lacking emotional intelligence and how exhausting it can be. Having these skills are essential to your health and well being. It also gives meaning to your relationships and makes you a better listener.

Just keeping you informed.


Goleman, D., & Boyatzis, R. (2017). Emotional intelligence has 12 elements. Which do you need to work on. Harvard Business Review, 84(2), 1-5.

Emotional Intelligence Developing Strong “People Skills” Retrieved from https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_59.htm

The Power of Reiki

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Reiki is a Japanese word that is a combination of two characters (Rei) meaning universal and (Ki) meaning life-force energy.  It involves the gentle laying on of hands to support the body’s ability to heal.  Reiki is an ancient therapy that is thought to originate in the Tibetan Sutras and was lost but renewed by Dr. Mikao Usui, a Japanese monk in the 1800’s. 

The technique requires the Reiki practitioner to place their hands on or above a fully dressed recipient utilizing positive energy to strengthen the body to facilitate healing (Cuneo et al., 2011; Natale, 2010, Vitale, 2007). 

Many feel Reiki is a philosophy and all living things are interconnected by energy.  It is believed that Reiki restores the body’s energy to promote healing and decreases stress (Cuneo et al., 2011; Natale, 2010). 

This modality claims to be effective for anxiety, depression, phobias, indigestion, weight loss, stress, wound healing, and pain (Natale, 2010; Vitale, 2007). Light touch is used to connect the universal life force energy with the individual’s own power to heal and restore balance (Bossi et al., 2007). 

Reiki can also be shared with others who are not present, which is known as distance healing. The goal of this modality is to promote self-healing.

Just keeping you informed.

Bossi, L. M., Ott, M. J., & Susan DeCristofaro, R. N. (2008). Reiki as a clinical intervention in oncology nursing practice. Clinical Journal of Oncology Nursing, 12(3), 489.

Cuneo, C. L., Cooper, M. R. C., Drew, C. S., Naoum-Heffernan, C., Sherman, T., Walz, K., & Weinberg, J. (2011). The effect of Reiki on work-related stress of the registered nurse. Journal of Holistic Nursing, 29(1), 33-43.

Natale, G. W. (2010). Reconnecting to nursing through Reiki. Creative Nursing, 16(4), 171-176.

Vitale, A. (2007). An integrative review of Reiki touch therapy research. Holistic Nursing Practice, 21(4), 167-179.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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Perhaps the most recognized symptom of breast cancer is a lump or mass in the breast tissue. While many women and men go to the doctor after finding a lump, every one should also be aware of other changes to the breast or nipple that appear abnormal. 

Men can also get breast cancer and should be aware of symptoms and should check their breast as well.  It is recommended that you check your breast frequently to ensure you can recognize your normal breast tissue from any lumps or masses that may occur.  Many find the lump or mass prior to going to the physician.

Keep in mind you must be your own advocate to ensure you get the care you need.  Sometime you need someone to advocate for you when you are not informed.  When in doubt get a second opinion.  It may not be what you want to hear but it could clear up your confusion and give you clarity.

Early warning signs of breast cancer

Symptoms of breast tumors vary from person to person. Some common, early warning signs of breast cancer include:

  • Skin changes, such as swelling, redness, or other visible differences in one or both breasts
  • An increase in size or change in shape of the breast(s)
  • Changes in the appearance of one or both nipples
  • Nipple discharge other than breast milk
  • General pain in/on any part of the breast
  • Lumps or nodes felt on or inside of the breast

Be diligent and take care of yourself.  Just keeping you informed.



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Thoughts Become Things

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones! ® ©www.tut.com 
I know you have heard this saying before.
The premise is our thoughts create our world, and if you think positive thoughts you create positive actions.
I was talking to a friend about goal setting and creating affirmation and the site created by Mike Dooley came to mind. It is a great site to help you with that task. I love this article and want to share. It was retrieved from http://www.tut.com. Enjoy!!

5 Self-Limiting Phrases That Are Stealing Your Power (and What to Say Instead)
BY Whitney Gordon-Mead        September 25, 2020

Affirmations are the cornerstone of my morning routine. 
They’re carefully worded. When I recite them aloud, I feel focused and empowered.
But affirmations are deliberate and intentional declarations. 
What about words that slip into your daily conversations and thought
Little phrases that rob your power without you realizing it.  Tiny words that seem insignificant but actually undermine your power and authority.
This is your wake-up call to fine-tune your inner and outer dialogue. Here are five self-limiting phrases that are stealing your power.
Ditch these 5 self-limiting phrases and reclaim your power:
1. “I SHOULD.”
Many times in a day, do you tell yourself you “should” do something? 
I should exercise. 
I should stop sleeping in. 
I should tidy up. 
I should be doing more, more, more. 
There’s always something you should be doing. 
But chances are, every “should” is accompanied by a negative emotion.
Guilt. Shame. Disappointment.
So, why do you burden yourself with all these “shoulds?”
Is it because that’s how you were raised? Or to gain social acceptance? Or because the news told you so?
But, see. You’re letting some outside entity enforce their own values on your life.
The things that other people tell you that you “should” do might not even align with your values and goals.

Start saying “I WANT.”
Return to your goals and priorities. The things that advance those goals and manifest your values are what you want to do, not what you should do.
Notice how different these two statements sound:
I should exercise after work even though I feel tired at this moment.
I want to exercise after work even though I feel tired at this moment.
In the first statement, exercise sounds like a burden. In the second, exercise feels like something to look forward to.
This small language shift can help you advance your goals. And according to  Merrily Sadlovsky, MSW, your “inner critic may be minimized, and maybe even silenced over time.”

2. “I’LL TRY.”
“Do or do not. There is no try.” ~ Yoda
Yes, Yoda is fictional, but his wisdom is genuine.
Trying isn’t achieving. It’s giving yourself permission to fail.
Ever notice how “I try” is often followed by “but?”
I tried learning guitar, but it was too difficult. 
I tried asking for a raise, but I decided to wait. 
I tried saying no, but they wouldn’t let up about it. 
Successful people don’t try. 
They get things done.
They learn the guitar. They earn that raise. They say no and mean it.

Start saying “I WILL.”
“I’ll try” is wishy-washy. “I will” is empowering.
It’s a declaration that you get results; that even in temporary failure, you will still get the job done.
Practice this change now.
What’s one thing you’ve “tried,” but didn’t see the results you wanted? Turn it into an “I will” declaration and share it in the comments below. 

3. “I THINK.”
“I think” is a shield for your feelings. When you’re criticized, you can quickly hide behind “it’s just my opinion.”
But doing this diminishes your power.
Your informed opinion holds value. And when you preface your thoughts with “I think,” you’re telling others that it can be dismissed.
It chips at your confidence and undermines your authority.
When you say, “I think I’ll be an asset to your company if you hire me,” how does that make you sound?
At best, you sound uncertain. 
Are you an asset to the company or not?
It’s time to stop thinking and start asserting yourself.
Ditch the preface altogether.
You don’t need a phrase like “I think” to introduce your thoughts.
Assert your opinion and take a stance.
“Yes, I am an asset to your company. Here’s why you should hire me.”
Say it loudly. Declare it proudly.
Show others and yourself that your thoughts and words carry power.

4. “I HOPE.”
This one might be surprising. What’s wrong with hoping?
When you say “I hope,” it diminishes two things:
The power of your statement.
Your trust in your Higher Power.
Take a look at this statement.
“I hope that my business takes off.”
Notice how “I hope” is a lot like “I’ll try”?
The end result feels uncertain. You give up your power.
Will you make it happen or not?
Start saying “I TRUST.”
When you put your trust in something, you’re trusting that the universe is on your side. 
You trust that everything that happens is for your highest good.
And you have faith that your Higher Power will grant you the knowledge and tools to create the change you want to see in your life.

5. “I CAN’T.”
Yes, there are times when things will be left undone. Or you may need to decline when somebody asks you for a favor.
But when you use the words, “I can’t,” it suggests a limit on your potential or ability.
And in some cases, that may be true — you might not have the expertise or resources at this moment. Or maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with life or suffering signs of burnout. 
However, there’s another way to convey this without compromising your power.
Start saying “I’M NOT ABLE TO.”
What’s the difference?
“I can’t” is limiting. 
“I’m not able to” is about setting healthy boundaries. 
It tells others that this other obligation or request doesn’t fit into your life at this moment.
It’s your choice.
Everything you say and do conveys something about yourself. 
Even those tiny words like “try” and “should.”
But these seemingly insignificant phrases say a lot. 
They influence how others perceive you and what you think of yourself.
“I’ll try” says that you’re comfortable with quitting. “I will” says that you’re an achiever.
Will you let your language steal your power?
Or will you use it to empower yourself and manifest your priorities?
You’re at choice with how you present yourself.

Hope this helps your mind and wellbeing..

Healing Touch

Healing touch has been a modality utilized by nurses since the 1980’s to increase energy and balance throughout the body. Healing touch affects multiple systems to promote and enhance healing as well as recovery, through the relief of pain, anxiety, relaxation, enhanced spiritual development and depressive behaviors (Hart et al., 2008; MacIntyre et al., 2008; Anderson & Taylor, 2011).

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Janet Mentgen, a nurse created healing touch that incorporated a variety of healing techniques that are non-invasive and require no manipulation of the practitioner’s hands to clear, energize, balance the human body and environmental energy fields (Anderson & Taylor, 2011).  The goal in healing touch is to restore harmony, energize and balance to the body (Anderson & Taylor, 2011; Hart et al., 2011, MacIntyre et al., 2008). 

Healing touch utilizes humans as a multi-dimensional energy system. This includes using the conscious mind that can be affected by another to promote well-being and a healing flow of energy in another person’s body, when the flow of energy has been disturbed by illness, surgery or stress (MacIntyre et al., 2008). 


Female energy healer passes hands over body of woman receiving treatment

  The techniques utilized in this modality require the practitioner to have high intention for the patients highest good to promote self-healing and it is a noninvasive modality (Decker et al., 2012; MacIntyre et al., 2008).  The hands are placed over the body or problem area and moved around in a specific pattern or sequence creating an electromagnetic field to promote healing, relaxation and reduce pain (Anderson & Taylor, 2011; MacIntyre et al., 2008; Hart et al., 2008).

You can find a certified practitioner by looking at these two professional organizations: Healing Touch Program and Healing Touch International. You also can ask your health care practitioner and or nurse about the practice and if they know anyone.

This information is provided to enhance your knowledge regarding holistic health practices and not a call for you to replace your medical treatment.

Just keeping your informed!


Anderson, J. G., & Taylor, A. G. (2011). Effects of healing touch in clinical practice: asystematic review of randomized clinical trials. Journal of Holistic Nursing: Official Journal of the American Holistic Nurses’ Association, 29(3), 221.

Decker, S., Wardell, D. W., Cron, S. G. (2012).  Using a healing touch intervention in older adults with persistent pain.  Journal of Holistic Nursing, 30 (3), 205-213.

Hart, L. K., Freel, M. I., Haylock, P. J., & Lutgendorf, S. K. (2011). The use of healing touch in integrative oncology. Clinical Journal of Oncology Nursing, 15(5), 519.

MacIntyre, B., Hamilton, J., Fricke, T., Ma, W., Mehle, S., & Michel, M. (2008). The efficacy of healing touch in coronary artery bypass surgery recovery: a randomized clinical trial. Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine, 14(4), 24.

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Vitamin D

Vitamin D is produced by the body in response to the skin being exposed to the sun and is essential for strong bones, because Vitamin D helps the body uses calcium from the diet (webmd.com). Many Americans have a vitamin D deficiency; 17.5 % of African Americans, 5.9 % of Hispanics, 7.6% of Asians and 2.1% of white Americans (nih.gov).

Vitamin D is produced when the body is exposed to sunlight and the also produces a mechanism to repair DNA. The problem is not the sun but the burning of skin that causes cancer. That is why the use of sun screen is encouraged to reduce skin cancer. However, the use of sun screen inhibits vitamin D production. Vitamin D is stored in fat, within the stomach, so the more weight one gains, the vitamin is not available for use by the body.

Other European countries, such as Finland, Sweden, Spain, Italy and others require vitamin D supplements added to the food. There are many sources of vitamin D. These foods include fatty fish (salmon, trout, mackerel), portobello mushrooms, fortified milk, yogurt, fortified non-dairy milk (almonds, soy), fortified cereal, orange juice, pork, eggs, tomatoes, and bell peppers (Oz & Roizen, 2005).

Vitamin D has multiple roles in the body. Vitamin D promotes healthy bones and teeth. This vitamin is essential support for the immune system, the brain, and nervous system, which regulates insulin levels, supporting lung and cardiovascular function (https://ods.od.nih.gov.)

So have an ice cream cone, its essential for your health.


Oz, M, and Roizen, M. (2005). YOU: The owner’s manual: An insider’s guide to the body that will make you healthier and younger, Harper Resource, New York, NY

Vitamin D-Professional Fact Sheet. Retrieved from https://ods.od.nih.gov

Vitamin D Deficiency. (2020). Retrieved from Webmd.com

Its Time to Unplug Again…

The stress of the current events has finally gotten to me! After the death of George Floyd, and the continuous media coverage, I was stressed and anxious. The lack of sensitivity by the current administration and others, compounded by the COVID-19 pandemic was depressing. I found that I really had to unplug and start doing something else for my sanity.

I like to keep up with current events, and honestly, it became too much to consume. It is reported that the President has COVID-19 after exhibiting risky behavior and the press are consumed with the story.

Apparently, I have a higher tolerance than most because many of my friends and family had already unplugged and doing other things. I felt I had to keep up with the nonsense and pay attention to combat false information.

Netflix and Prime Video have became my friend. I started listening to more music, and increased my exercise activity and stopped watching the news.

My advice to you, is take care of yourself, unplug, find something you like to do to relieve your stress. These days we all need to ensure we are getting enough sleep, eating well and exercising to maintain our well being and health.

Just keeping you informed!


COVID-19 has been an issue in the United States since February. The current death rate from this pandemic is 220k and the United States has 4% of the world’s population. Doctors and nurses have been on the front line of this pandemic since the beginning. The American Nurses Association (ANA) reports that half of front line nurses are emotionally overwhelmed as they administer care to those with COVID-19 (ANA, 2020). Over 10,000 nurses were surveyed; 30% complained of having feelings of depression, while 73% were having difficulty sleeping (ANA, 2020).

The nurses complained of experiencing additional stress because they are required to reuse PPE (personal protective equipment) even though they were taught it is designed for single use only. As a result, nurses feel unsafe (ANA, 2020). Contrary to what the public has heard, many hospitals are still experiencing a shortage of PPE (ANA, 2020). The President of the ANA, Ernest Grant, PhD, RN, FAAN testified on behalf of America’s nursing workforce to the Senate Committee on Finance regarding this issue (ANA, 2020). The strain on the country’s medical chain has had a tremendous impact on nursing due to the shortage of PPE.

I do not know if his testimony will make a difference. The Trump Administration likes to brag about their response to the virus and how the virus will just go away. Meanwhile, nurses and other front line workers continue to be severely burned out, tired and overwhelmed.

To make matters worse the CDC, keeps changing the guidelines, regarding the use of PPE, how long individuals should be quarantined, and testing procedures. This has caused medical professionals to revert back to standard infection control guidelines to keep themselves safe. This uncertainty has also affected how the public views the virus, leading to unsafe practices, i.e., no social distancing, or wearing a mask.

For anyone who has had a doubt about the virus, know it is real and catching it may have consequences. It may leave you with a pre-existing condition. Remember, Mr. Trump and the Republican Party are actively trying to disassemble the Affordable Act (Obama Care) and the clause that individuals with pre-exisiting conditions must be covered by insurance companies.

We the people can decide we want to reduce the spread of this virus by listening to science and doing our part. Our part includes washing your hands, practicing social distancing, wearing a mask and avoiding crowds. That is not too much to ask, so that life can return to normal, reduce the death rate and business can once again thrive. Your personal freedom is no more important than the greater good for mankind. It’s interesting that many do no believe they are their brothers keeper, and this is a pandemic meaning its world wide. Be considerate and think of others.


ANA Enterprise News. (2020, September). ANA present testifies on PPE shortage. American Nurse, 15(9), 54.

ANA Enterprise News. (2020, September). Half of frontline nurses emotionally overwhelmed by COVID-19. American Nurse, 15(9), 54.

September is Suicide Awareness Month

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If you or someone you know is in an emergency situation and is talking about committing suicide call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) or call 911 immediately.

Suicide is on the rise, and it may be due to the isolation and loneliness as a result of this pandemic. In the wake of the political climate, acts of injustice by the police, and natural disasters, we are all left a little depressed. Those with mental health issues, children, and adolescents experiencing cyberbullying as well as nurses and others that are also experiencing bullying in the workplace may find these extra burdens are too much to deal with. These constant attacks make them all susceptible to the feelings of hopelessness and despair, that could give way to suicide if left untreated.

If you or anyone you know have experienced hopelessness and despair and it continues to plague you or someone you know, please reach out for help. Not all individuals may be suicidal but they do need some intervention from a professional, to assist with healthy coping mechanisms.

Below are references for more information on this serious topic.


  1. Suicide rates for all ages – Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Centers for Injury Prevention and Control. Web-based Injury Statistics Query and Reporting System (WISQARS) [online]. (2005) Accessed March 30, 2020.
  2. Number of and rates of youth suicides – Texas Department of State Health Services, Texas Death Certificate Data, Vital Statistics Section. Prepared by Center for Health Statistics, March 11, 2020.
  3. Number of suicide-related calls to Poison Control Center – Texas Department of State Health Services, Environmental Epidemiology & Disease Registries. Prepared by Texas Poison Center Network (TPCN), February 28, 2020.
  4. Who’s at risk? – Texas Department of State Health Services, Center for Health Statistics. Prepared by Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (YRBSS), March 4, 2020.

Remember to reach out, if you or someone you know have feelings of extreme sadness and hopelessness that you can not manage call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) or call 911 immediately.

Are You a Caregiver?

Caregivers are special people, and give of themselves to take care of their family members and others. Being a caregiver can be demanding and trying but during this time of COVID-19, it can be especially stressful. A hospitalized family member can add additional guilt and worry to a stressful situation.

Caregivers can be so dedicated when providing care for their loved ones, that they forget they have needs to be addressed. Outings with friends and family are essential and wonderful therapy, but during these times COVID-19 has caused an extra burden on everyone. Remember social distancing and use a mask to protect yourself and others.

The role of a caregiver can be fulfilling as well as taxing. It is normal to feel overwhelmed, unappreciated, frustrated, and guilty at times. Joining a caregiver’s support group can be helpful and reduce the loneliness one may feel as a caregiver.

Taking Care of Yourself: Tips for Caregivers

Taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do as a caregiver. Make sure you’re eating healthy, being active, and taking time for yourself. Caregiving, especially from a distance, is likely to bring out many different emotions, both positive and negative. Feeling of frustration and angry with 3 older women doing yoga meditationeveryone, from the care recipient to the doctors, is a common experience. Anger could be a sign that they are overwhelmed or trying to do too much. If possible , they should give themselves a break: take a walk, talk with friends, get some sleep—try to do something for yourself. Retrieved from https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/caregiving

Care giving is not easy for anyone—not for the caregiver and not for the care recipient. There are sacrifices and adjustments for everyone, especially when you don’t live where the care is needed, it may be especially hard to feel that what you are doing is enough or important.

Although caregivers may not feel as physically exhausted and drained as the primary, hands-on caregiver, long-distance caregivers may still be worried and anxious. Sometimes, long-distance caregivers feel guilty about not being closer, not doing enough, not having enough time with the person, and perhaps even feeling jealous of those who do. Many long-distance caregivers also find that worrying about being able to afford to take time off from work, being away from family, or the cost of travel increases these frustrations. Remember that you are doing the best you can given the circumstances and that you can only do what you can do. It may help to know that these are feelings shared by many other long-distance caregivers—you are not alone in this. Retrieved from https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/caregiving.

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Learn about sharing caregiving responsibilities with friends and family.

For More Information About Caregiver Health Contact

Family Caregiver Alliance
800-445-8106 (toll-free)

Vitamin C

Vitamin C is required for the proper development and function of many parts of the body. It also plays an important role in maintaining a proper immune system, prevents bone loss and cartilage inadequacies associated with aging (Oz and Roizen, 2005).

Vitamin C was used for preventing and treating scurvy. These days, vitamin C is most commonly used for preventing and treating the common cold.

Coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19): Some experts suggest taking 200 mg of vitamin C daily for COVID-19 prevention or 1-2 grams daily for COVID-19 treatment (WebMD, 2020). While these doses of vitamin C are likely safe, there is no good data to support benefit for COVID-19. If you opt to take vitamin C for COVID-19, be sure to follow a healthy lifestyle and proven prevention methods (WebMD, 20).

Most experts recommend getting vitamin C from a diet high in fruits and vegetables rather than taking supplements (WebMD, 2020). Either way, Vitamin C is good for the body. A great source is fresh-squeezed orange juice or fresh frozen concentrate, tomatoes and bell peppers.

Just keeping you informed and stay well!!!


Oz, M, and Roizen, M. (2005). YOU: The owner’s manual: An insider’s guide to the body that will make you healthier and younger, Harper Resource, New York, NY.

WebMD. (2020) VITAMIN C (ASCORBIC ACID). Retrieved from https://www.webmd.com/vitamins/ai/ingredientmono-1001/vitamin-c-ascorbic-acid

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