Bullying in the Workplace

Bullying is described as a deliberate act that is repetitive and offensive, in which the target suffers embarrassment, fear, intimidation, and is repeated to the extent it interferes with job performance.

Workplace bullying can put a mental and physical strain on both the individual and the those who witness the behavior.   The collateral damage of workplace bullying can result in emotional exhaustion, burnout, depression, frustration, as well as physical symptoms, such as headaches, sleep disturbances, and gastrointestinal upsets.  Organizationally, it causes sustainability problems. Men & women handle bullying differently in the work place, but may experience the same physical & emotional issues.

Workplace bullying is a worldwide problem.  In the United States there are no laws to protect employees from this behavior.  It has been found that bullying does not stop until the target quits or transfers to another area.  The targets are not sure why they are being bullied and are usually very high performers in the organization. Bully’s feels intimated by the target and s

Bullying is a big problem in healthcare and is the kept silent, especially in nursing.  It is so prevalent that nurses will not talk about at work because of fear & retailation.

I can only imagine what is going on now with the stress of COVID-19 and a depressed work market.

Please take care of yourself.  Stand up to the bully.  Reach out to someone outside of the organization for support.

Covid-19 Update, part iii

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This is the second week of November 2020 and the United States has reached 10.3 million cases of individuals infected with covid-19, and 244K deaths. According to the news media, Texas has become the new epic center due to cases that are soaring in the city of El Paseo. As of this date, Texas has 1 million cases and hospitalizations and 19.3K deaths.

It is reported that some healthcare facilities around the country are asking nurses that test positive for COVID-19 and have no symptoms, to return to work and take care of COVID-19 patients. Personally, I do not believe that is a safe practice. This would put other staff and their families at risk. Contrary to what others may believe, nurses are not expendable. Health care providers are tired and frustrated, but continue to provide care to the inconsiderate public.

To curve this public health issue, it is imperative that the public does their part to reduce the spread of this virus. Hospital staff would appreciate your diligence as well as your neighbors and friends. Many individuals still believe this virus is a hoax, refuse to wear a mask, and social distance. I told a friend that we wear seat belts, get car insurance, and show up to work on time, so what is the problem, especially during a pandemic?

As we move into the winter months, the virus is projected to infect more individuals. Hospitalizations and deaths have increased since October. Thanksgiving is in a few weeks and it is suggested that we not get together or have our gatherings outside to ensure that we can social distance. You do not want to be the person who shares this virus with your family and friends because of your carelessness and stubbornness to follow the recommendations.

Do your part. We can eradicate this virus together and reduce transmission. Please take of yourself, social distance, wear a mask, and wash your hands!

Happy Veterans Day

Today is Wednesday, November 11, 2020, Veterans Day in the United States. As I reflect on this day I am left to wonder what this country would have been like without all the wars and sacrifices made by the Veterans in this country.
I have both friends and numerous cousins and a father who are and were Veterans. I was also honored to provide care to Veterans as a registered nurse, for many years for the Department of Veterans Affairs. During my nursing career, I have personally witness the health struggles of so many Veterans that are seen and unseen.

I want to thank them for their service, and although that statement has become a cliche’, civilians offer the phrase because they do not know what else to say. There are so many sacrifices that Veterans have made, and some of us have no idea what they have loss, or endured especially during war. Some have physical and mental challenges that remain unseen.

Although you may not agree with many of the conflicts this country has engaged in, please know that Veterans are the reason you are able to enjoy some of the freedoms you take for granted. So with that said, its Veterans Day, take time and do something for the Veterans in your life.

Please stay healthy and well, wear a mask, and social distance. We want to see you in 2021. Just keeping you informed!


There is a connection between disease and sickness and the foods you consume. It is in your best interest to stay healthy and well, for obvious reasons.

Many people utilize juicing for many different reasons. It has been used as a method to heal, detoxify the body and weight loss. Juicing is also a great practice to quickly access the nutrients of fruits and vegetables.  Juicing involves grinding, squeezing, or pressing fresh fruit and/or vegetables to obtain the juice. Buy and use fresh organic raw fruits and vegetables to ensure you have not loss valuable vitamins and enzymes.

There are several types of equipment one can use to enhance your juicing experience. The type of equipment you buy depends on the cost and ease of use. There are many types of juicers that available, that include a centrifugal juicer, manual juicer, or super blenders. You have many choices.

Everyone can benefit from juicing, its easy and a quick way to boast your health and well being. Try it to enhance your health. Below are great references to assist you in your juicing journey.


Juicing: Is It Good for You? Pros and Cons, Nutrition, and More. (2020). Retrieved from https://www.webmd.com/diet/juicing-health-benefits#1

Woloshyn, T. (2007). The complete master cleanse. Berkeley, CA. Ulysses Press

The Complete Master Cleanse: A Step-By-Step Guide To Maximizing The Benefits Of The Lemonade Diet Ebook

Clean & Green. (2015). New York, NY, Parragon Books LTD.

Clean & Green by Parragon Books

The information shared is not intended to replace your medication or advice from your physician or medical profession.

Self Care

Can we exhale?  We got through election day, and now we are waiting.  If you are like me you have been watching the returns with some trepidation and anxiety.    The question is now what? Some individuals have been especially nasty to others for their choice in this election, even though voting is a right afforded to all American citizens.

Sixty eight million of our neighbors, coworkers and family members voted for the current president and what he represents. These same individuals will claim they are appalled at what is going on in the country, but, now they will be viewed with some suspicion of their sincerity.

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What I realize, many people are consumers of information and blindly listen, and repeat false information. They do not have the will or the ability to engage in critical thinking. They are our family, friends and coworkers, and we have known who they are for sometime, but continue to expect something different from them. They create their own facts or unwarranted fear, or simply are quiet about the treatment of others.

As a result, you have been disappointed, mortified, and upset. You choose to ignore them, or distance from them, but you must realize they are doing the best they can.

Give up the expectation and take care of yourself. You need to relax, reduce your anxiety and fear and watch your food and alcohol intake. Watch a movie or a sitcom to relax. Listen to music and dance like no one is watching. Self care is essential for your health and wellbeing. Stay aware, so you can stay well and safe.

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Just keeping you informed!

Let’s Vote America!

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Today is November 1, 2020 and the anticipation of this years vote is high. This election season has caused anxiety, worry and suspense. Personally, I can not wait until its over. It has been frustrating to say the least. Many are exhausted by the tactics used to increase turmoil, division and hate that has occurred in the last few years.

My health and wellbeing can not take anymore and I want some calmness. A constant threat of readiness and anxiety is not healthy for anybody and can have an impact on your psyche. We must control our thoughts because they do become things. It can be challenging if you perceive the threat is close. My son stated he becomes anxious every time a policeman is behind him in traffic. This is real for him as it is for many Black males in this country.

Please Vote if you have not, and make your voice heard. If you have, sit back, relax and watch the fire works. We have two days until election and a few months to settle into the results. What ever happens stay well and stay safe. We will get through this, our health and wellness depend on it.

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Scoliosis, or Spinal Deformity, refers to an abnormal curvature of the spine, resulting in a person’s spine appearing to have a “C” or “S” shape. Broadly, scoliosis/spinal deformity also include conditions such as kyphosis, which is a deformity of the spine in the sagittal (side view) plane.

Scoliosis can be progressive and range from mild to severe. Mild scoliosis may not be easily recognized, versus severe scoliosis which is noticeable and can result in chronic, debilitating pain.

Given the range of this condition, obtaining a clinical examination from an experience physician is essential to ensure the right treatment plan is developed for your individual condition and long-term goals.

It appears to be common in females, and occurs during puberty.  There is no cure but there is treatment. It can be managed by exercise, using a brace or having surgery depending on the severity.  Stretching, yoga and Pilates are recommended to increase flexibility.


Adult Scoliosis Surgery Program, Retrieved from                                     https://www.brighamandwomens.org/neurosurgery/adult-scoliosis

Best Exercises for Scoliosis, Retrieved from https://www.healthline.com/health/scoliosis/exercises-at-home#types-of-scoliosisb

Emotional Intelligence

According to Goleman & Boyatzis (2017) Emotional intelligence, also known as the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. The four pillars of emotional intelligence include self awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.

We need these skills to relate to others, especially in a work setting. Being self aware is the ability to recognize your emotions, and understand what they’re telling you. Emotional intelligence also involves your ability to recognize what others maybe feeling which is called empathy. This allows you to relate to others and manage your relationships as you listen.

Listening to your emotions is confirmation to your soul. We all have emotions to guide us through life. When many of us go against our emotions most of us feel unsettled. Self awareness and self management are essential features to assist with social awareness of self and others. Individuals that have poor emotional intelligence have ineffective social skills that impede relationships and lack sincerity.

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Are you inspired to change or improve your emotional intelligence? Take responsibility for your actions and your emotions. This can be achieved by being aware of any emotions that you maybe experiencing. How do you manage your relationships, and do you have the ability to show empathy for others? This is also a key component of emotional intelligence.

Sounds simple but this can be challenging if you are not motivated or aware of your surroundings and how you interact with others. I sure you have examples of someone lacking emotional intelligence and how exhausting it can be. Having these skills are essential to your health and well being. It also gives meaning to your relationships and makes you a better listener.

Just keeping you informed.


Goleman, D., & Boyatzis, R. (2017). Emotional intelligence has 12 elements. Which do you need to work on. Harvard Business Review, 84(2), 1-5.

Emotional Intelligence Developing Strong “People Skills” Retrieved from https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_59.htm

The Power of Reiki

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Reiki is a Japanese word that is a combination of two characters (Rei) meaning universal and (Ki) meaning life-force energy.  It involves the gentle laying on of hands to support the body’s ability to heal.  Reiki is an ancient therapy that is thought to originate in the Tibetan Sutras and was lost but renewed by Dr. Mikao Usui, a Japanese monk in the 1800’s. 

The technique requires the Reiki practitioner to place their hands on or above a fully dressed recipient utilizing positive energy to strengthen the body to facilitate healing (Cuneo et al., 2011; Natale, 2010, Vitale, 2007). 

Many feel Reiki is a philosophy and all living things are interconnected by energy.  It is believed that Reiki restores the body’s energy to promote healing and decreases stress (Cuneo et al., 2011; Natale, 2010). 

This modality claims to be effective for anxiety, depression, phobias, indigestion, weight loss, stress, wound healing, and pain (Natale, 2010; Vitale, 2007). Light touch is used to connect the universal life force energy with the individual’s own power to heal and restore balance (Bossi et al., 2007). 

Reiki can also be shared with others who are not present, which is known as distance healing. The goal of this modality is to promote self-healing.

Just keeping you informed.

Bossi, L. M., Ott, M. J., & Susan DeCristofaro, R. N. (2008). Reiki as a clinical intervention in oncology nursing practice. Clinical Journal of Oncology Nursing, 12(3), 489.

Cuneo, C. L., Cooper, M. R. C., Drew, C. S., Naoum-Heffernan, C., Sherman, T., Walz, K., & Weinberg, J. (2011). The effect of Reiki on work-related stress of the registered nurse. Journal of Holistic Nursing, 29(1), 33-43.

Natale, G. W. (2010). Reconnecting to nursing through Reiki. Creative Nursing, 16(4), 171-176.

Vitale, A. (2007). An integrative review of Reiki touch therapy research. Holistic Nursing Practice, 21(4), 167-179.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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Perhaps the most recognized symptom of breast cancer is a lump or mass in the breast tissue. While many women and men go to the doctor after finding a lump, every one should also be aware of other changes to the breast or nipple that appear abnormal. 

Men can also get breast cancer and should be aware of symptoms and should check their breast as well.  It is recommended that you check your breast frequently to ensure you can recognize your normal breast tissue from any lumps or masses that may occur.  Many find the lump or mass prior to going to the physician.

Keep in mind you must be your own advocate to ensure you get the care you need.  Sometime you need someone to advocate for you when you are not informed.  When in doubt get a second opinion.  It may not be what you want to hear but it could clear up your confusion and give you clarity.

Early warning signs of breast cancer

Symptoms of breast tumors vary from person to person. Some common, early warning signs of breast cancer include:

  • Skin changes, such as swelling, redness, or other visible differences in one or both breasts
  • An increase in size or change in shape of the breast(s)
  • Changes in the appearance of one or both nipples
  • Nipple discharge other than breast milk
  • General pain in/on any part of the breast
  • Lumps or nodes felt on or inside of the breast

Be diligent and take care of yourself.  Just keeping you informed.



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Thoughts Become Things

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones! ® ©www.tut.com 
I know you have heard this saying before.
The premise is our thoughts create our world, and if you think positive thoughts you create positive actions.
I was talking to a friend about goal setting and creating affirmation and the site created by Mike Dooley came to mind. It is a great site to help you with that task. I love this article and want to share. It was retrieved from http://www.tut.com. Enjoy!!

5 Self-Limiting Phrases That Are Stealing Your Power (and What to Say Instead)
BY Whitney Gordon-Mead        September 25, 2020

Affirmations are the cornerstone of my morning routine. 
They’re carefully worded. When I recite them aloud, I feel focused and empowered.
But affirmations are deliberate and intentional declarations. 
What about words that slip into your daily conversations and thought
Little phrases that rob your power without you realizing it.  Tiny words that seem insignificant but actually undermine your power and authority.
This is your wake-up call to fine-tune your inner and outer dialogue. Here are five self-limiting phrases that are stealing your power.
Ditch these 5 self-limiting phrases and reclaim your power:
1. “I SHOULD.”
Many times in a day, do you tell yourself you “should” do something? 
I should exercise. 
I should stop sleeping in. 
I should tidy up. 
I should be doing more, more, more. 
There’s always something you should be doing. 
But chances are, every “should” is accompanied by a negative emotion.
Guilt. Shame. Disappointment.
So, why do you burden yourself with all these “shoulds?”
Is it because that’s how you were raised? Or to gain social acceptance? Or because the news told you so?
But, see. You’re letting some outside entity enforce their own values on your life.
The things that other people tell you that you “should” do might not even align with your values and goals.

Start saying “I WANT.”
Return to your goals and priorities. The things that advance those goals and manifest your values are what you want to do, not what you should do.
Notice how different these two statements sound:
I should exercise after work even though I feel tired at this moment.
I want to exercise after work even though I feel tired at this moment.
In the first statement, exercise sounds like a burden. In the second, exercise feels like something to look forward to.
This small language shift can help you advance your goals. And according to  Merrily Sadlovsky, MSW, your “inner critic may be minimized, and maybe even silenced over time.”

2. “I’LL TRY.”
“Do or do not. There is no try.” ~ Yoda
Yes, Yoda is fictional, but his wisdom is genuine.
Trying isn’t achieving. It’s giving yourself permission to fail.
Ever notice how “I try” is often followed by “but?”
I tried learning guitar, but it was too difficult. 
I tried asking for a raise, but I decided to wait. 
I tried saying no, but they wouldn’t let up about it. 
Successful people don’t try. 
They get things done.
They learn the guitar. They earn that raise. They say no and mean it.

Start saying “I WILL.”
“I’ll try” is wishy-washy. “I will” is empowering.
It’s a declaration that you get results; that even in temporary failure, you will still get the job done.
Practice this change now.
What’s one thing you’ve “tried,” but didn’t see the results you wanted? Turn it into an “I will” declaration and share it in the comments below. 

3. “I THINK.”
“I think” is a shield for your feelings. When you’re criticized, you can quickly hide behind “it’s just my opinion.”
But doing this diminishes your power.
Your informed opinion holds value. And when you preface your thoughts with “I think,” you’re telling others that it can be dismissed.
It chips at your confidence and undermines your authority.
When you say, “I think I’ll be an asset to your company if you hire me,” how does that make you sound?
At best, you sound uncertain. 
Are you an asset to the company or not?
It’s time to stop thinking and start asserting yourself.
Ditch the preface altogether.
You don’t need a phrase like “I think” to introduce your thoughts.
Assert your opinion and take a stance.
“Yes, I am an asset to your company. Here’s why you should hire me.”
Say it loudly. Declare it proudly.
Show others and yourself that your thoughts and words carry power.

4. “I HOPE.”
This one might be surprising. What’s wrong with hoping?
When you say “I hope,” it diminishes two things:
The power of your statement.
Your trust in your Higher Power.
Take a look at this statement.
“I hope that my business takes off.”
Notice how “I hope” is a lot like “I’ll try”?
The end result feels uncertain. You give up your power.
Will you make it happen or not?
Start saying “I TRUST.”
When you put your trust in something, you’re trusting that the universe is on your side. 
You trust that everything that happens is for your highest good.
And you have faith that your Higher Power will grant you the knowledge and tools to create the change you want to see in your life.

5. “I CAN’T.”
Yes, there are times when things will be left undone. Or you may need to decline when somebody asks you for a favor.
But when you use the words, “I can’t,” it suggests a limit on your potential or ability.
And in some cases, that may be true — you might not have the expertise or resources at this moment. Or maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with life or suffering signs of burnout. 
However, there’s another way to convey this without compromising your power.
Start saying “I’M NOT ABLE TO.”
What’s the difference?
“I can’t” is limiting. 
“I’m not able to” is about setting healthy boundaries. 
It tells others that this other obligation or request doesn’t fit into your life at this moment.
It’s your choice.
Everything you say and do conveys something about yourself. 
Even those tiny words like “try” and “should.”
But these seemingly insignificant phrases say a lot. 
They influence how others perceive you and what you think of yourself.
“I’ll try” says that you’re comfortable with quitting. “I will” says that you’re an achiever.
Will you let your language steal your power?
Or will you use it to empower yourself and manifest your priorities?
You’re at choice with how you present yourself.

Hope this helps your mind and wellbeing..

Healing Touch

Healing touch has been a modality utilized by nurses since the 1980’s to increase energy and balance throughout the body. Healing touch affects multiple systems to promote and enhance healing as well as recovery, through the relief of pain, anxiety, relaxation, enhanced spiritual development and depressive behaviors (Hart et al., 2008; MacIntyre et al., 2008; Anderson & Taylor, 2011).

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Janet Mentgen, a nurse created healing touch that incorporated a variety of healing techniques that are non-invasive and require no manipulation of the practitioner’s hands to clear, energize, balance the human body and environmental energy fields (Anderson & Taylor, 2011).  The goal in healing touch is to restore harmony, energize and balance to the body (Anderson & Taylor, 2011; Hart et al., 2011, MacIntyre et al., 2008). 

Healing touch utilizes humans as a multi-dimensional energy system. This includes using the conscious mind that can be affected by another to promote well-being and a healing flow of energy in another person’s body, when the flow of energy has been disturbed by illness, surgery or stress (MacIntyre et al., 2008). 


Female energy healer passes hands over body of woman receiving treatment

  The techniques utilized in this modality require the practitioner to have high intention for the patients highest good to promote self-healing and it is a noninvasive modality (Decker et al., 2012; MacIntyre et al., 2008).  The hands are placed over the body or problem area and moved around in a specific pattern or sequence creating an electromagnetic field to promote healing, relaxation and reduce pain (Anderson & Taylor, 2011; MacIntyre et al., 2008; Hart et al., 2008).

You can find a certified practitioner by looking at these two professional organizations: Healing Touch Program and Healing Touch International. You also can ask your health care practitioner and or nurse about the practice and if they know anyone.

This information is provided to enhance your knowledge regarding holistic health practices and not a call for you to replace your medical treatment.

Just keeping your informed!


Anderson, J. G., & Taylor, A. G. (2011). Effects of healing touch in clinical practice: asystematic review of randomized clinical trials. Journal of Holistic Nursing: Official Journal of the American Holistic Nurses’ Association, 29(3), 221.

Decker, S., Wardell, D. W., Cron, S. G. (2012).  Using a healing touch intervention in older adults with persistent pain.  Journal of Holistic Nursing, 30 (3), 205-213.

Hart, L. K., Freel, M. I., Haylock, P. J., & Lutgendorf, S. K. (2011). The use of healing touch in integrative oncology. Clinical Journal of Oncology Nursing, 15(5), 519.

MacIntyre, B., Hamilton, J., Fricke, T., Ma, W., Mehle, S., & Michel, M. (2008). The efficacy of healing touch in coronary artery bypass surgery recovery: a randomized clinical trial. Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine, 14(4), 24.

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